Pilot born without arms meets girl with same condition


Originally posted on WWLP.com:

OSHKOSH, Wisconsin (WISH) — They’re photos that are touching people near and far.

Jessica Cox and 3-year-old RE. (Photo courtesy of Nick Spark/Right Footed)
Jessica Cox and 3-year-old RE. (Photo courtesy of Nick Spark/Right Footed)

Jessica Cox is the world’s first and only armless pilot and motivational speaker. For three years, director Nick Spark followed she and her husband across three continents, chronicling her inspiring story in a documentary called “Right Footed.” 

The film made its world premiere last month at the Mirabile Dictu Film Festival at Vatican City, Rome, where it was awarded Best Documentary Film. Last week, it made its U.S. premiere at an aviation event in Oshkosh, Wisconsin.

It was there, before the film’s second screening, that Cox met a little girl she’ll never forget. Three-year-old RE and her mother drove six hours to be there. RE, like Cox, was also born without arms.

 (Photo courtesy of Nick Spark/Right Footed)
(Photo courtesy of Nick Spark/Right Footed)

Cox stopped signing books and posters and turned her attention to little RE and her mom. She showed her…

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Time is a finite resource


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No matter how many books we read, what time management systems we try, or how aware we are of the amount of time we are spending away from the things that really matter to us, inevitably we all find ourselves in the time crunch at some time or another.

For me this came this last month, my daughter Finley was born on the 19th of June, I had to be out of my place by the 17th of July while my new place wasn’t ready until August 1st, and it’s the busiest time of year for me at work.

When it gets like this you feel like you are jumping from one little fire to another, nothing very major but it all piles up and combine that with a serious lack of sleep and being disconnected from your partner and you have a serious strain.

There’s lots of people out there with advice, slow down, take it easy, stop and smell the flowers.  I’m always suspicious of people with this type of advice, mainly because for the most part they aren’t wearing pants.  It’s hard to take someone in a robe seriously, I mean what’s going on under there?  What are the rules for wearing robes?  Are they wearing robes because they can’t afford pants?  Are those actually curtains?  This makes it hard to concentrate on the subject on hand.  Self help guru’s really don’t seem to be on the same level as the rest of us, they are either some hard core business fanatic who sleeps in an oxygen chamber for three hours a night with five assistants and a smile like a shark, or a washed out hippy amiably chasing his eighteen year old interns around his hookah.  They don’t connect with real people and they don’t have real world problems.

So my advice is going to be simple.  I try to stick to these two rules and forget everything else.

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First on my mind

  1. Whatever it is you are doing, make sure it is in the best interests of your family, I think of the two girls above first then I think about my partner.
  1. Don’t feel guilty.

There are going to be times in life when you have to spend time away from your family or pick and choose what you are going to do.  Be fair but be firm, you’re going to catch a lot of flak when you are away.  Just make sure what you are doing is in the best interests of your family.  Drinking beer at the local watering hole until 3am is great to blow off some steam and reset yourself but if it’s taking away time from your family, causing strife, and not adding to the overall wellbeing of your family, then it has to wait.

I frankly am not stopping to smell the flowers and I refuse to “take it easy”.  That’s not who I am.  I can’t rest easy until the things that need to be done for my family are done and that’s okay.  I have balance in my life but when the chips are down and there’s a deadline, you can’t slack off.

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My final bit of advice is this.  Be prepared for the guilt trip.  Don’t get mad or angry at your spouse, it’s part of the deal.  They aren’t going to like it, don’t argue with them, don’t remind them of the losers that they could be with.  Just do what you have to do and let the actions speak for you.  As long as you are following rule one you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Be who you are and make it count.

Brad.

Inside out and all around


  

Last week I took my seven year old to see inside out, it didn’t have the impact with her that Frozen had last year (what possibly could compete with frozen? I have all the songs memorized), but it had an impact with me.  Without throwing out any spoilers the overall message was that every emotion is essential to create a real human and secondly, sadness is an essential part of being an adult.  

What a great message, it’s only when one emotion takes over that we have real problems.  Each part of our psyche has an important part to play in keeping us safe and healthy.  

Just a thought, have a happy weekend!

Brad.

Project Semicolon


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I ran across this the other day and thought I would share.  Take a quick look.

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Blow off your post holiday blues


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Post holiday blues aren’t just for Thanksgiving and Christmas, if you’re anything like me you spent the July 4th weekend surrounded by family and friends, enjoying the great summer weather, barbecuing, and maybe having a few drinks.  Then it all goes away and you have to go back to work on Monday and face the prospect of a full week of mind numbing drudgery, or at least it feels that way after vacation.  Everyone is back to their lives and you’re feeling a little bit let down.  If so you aren’t alone.

Here’s a few tips for minimizing the letdown.

Limit Alcohol consumption.  Studies have shown that moderate intake isn’t all that bad, but excessive intake is actually linked to depression.  So have a few with your friends but don’t overdo it.  You’ll be happier the week after and there will be less stories that start with “Remember July 4th?  I’ve never seen anything like it. . . “   On a side note this is how most of my friends start conversations with me.

Prepare yourself.  You know it’s coming, you’ve been here before, so you can either choose the path of least resistance, Netflix binge and junk food, or plan ahead and give yourself something to do the week after.  As tempting as 100 episodes of Futurama or Departures and greasy pizza is, get out and do something.  Make plans to try something new, maybe a cooking class so you can make your own greasy pizza.  Anything to get you out of the house and into something new.

Exercise and Nutrition.  It’s a lot easier to feel good when you actually physically feel good, plan to exercise and eat right the week after, with your body feeling good, your mind will find it a lot easier to feel good too.  This is great advice that I never seem to be able to follow through with so don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen, just try again next time!

Surround yourself with people.  It’s hard to get out the week after a holiday, but make a big effort, make plans with your friends, go see a movie, have dinner (ahem. . . a healthy one right?  Right.), go for a walk and mark two things off your list.  Just do something to get out of your space and expose yourself to a new experience.

Hopefully if you do it right you’ll be too busy to be that let down after the holiday.

HBO short on Depression


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Sigourney Weaver== The Hirschfeld Century: The Art of Al Hirschfeld exhibition opening at the New-York Historical Society== New York Historical Society, NYC== May 20, 2015== ©Patrick McMullan== Photo – Sean Zanni/PatrickMcMullan.com== ==

 

Page Six has a short blurb on HBO’s upcoming short on depression.

Happy 4th of July to Our Brothers in Arms!


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Fireworks behind statue of liberty

Since it is the 4th of July, I feel this is a good time to talk about Veterans.

I love this country but the truth is, our military is not good at taking care of the men and women who fight for us.  It’s shameful that they can’t get absolutely everything that they need to adjust to being back home.  An estimated 11-20% of returning veterans will suffer from PTSD. Many Veterans become homeless and suffer from substance abuse.  But there are organizations trying to help.

Here are some disturbing facts from the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs and The National Coalition for Homeless Veterans

Between 529,000 and 840,000 veterans are homeless at some point every single year.

33% of homeless males in the U.S. are veterans, and while veterans make up 11% of the U.S. population they account for 26% of the homeless population.

Veterans are twice as likely to become chronically homeless.  Twice as likely.

The number of homeless Vietnam-era veterans is greater than the number of soldiers who died during the war.

The National Alliance to End Homelessness cites several reasons why, including Combat-related mental health issues and disabilities, substance abuse, and lack of services.  We can’t control what happens while they are gone but there isn’t any reason that any veteran should lack for support and services.

There’s a lot of soldiers out there that need help during their tours and after, I would encourage you to check out The National Alliance to End Homelessness and The National Coalition for Homeless Veterans for more information, also this site great nonprofits, has a list of Veteran specific non-profits.

Go out and have a happy 4th, just don’t forget, there are people out there who need us.  We asked everything from them, now it’s our turn.

Brad.